Do you have more lows than highs during your day, every day?
Or are they every so often, being a mum is a physical and emotional roller coaster, so it is normal to have bouts of highs and lows, the important point is that you have high points in the day to balance out the lows.
If you feel low most of the time and cannot shake these feelings and you really find it difficult to lift your spirits, you could be experiencing Postnatal Depression (PND).
Here are symptoms that may have emerged afterbirth or a few weeks or months on:
- Not enjoying motherhood, or not experiencing pleasure from being with your baby, or negative feelings towards partner or your other children.
- Negative thoughts and feelings are constant
- Fear you may harm your baby
- Think you are being a bad mother, even if you’re doing a great job.
- Anxious of baby’s health, even though your baby is fine.
- Become stressed about things that wouldn’t normally bother you.
- Obsessing over things relating to baby or your own health, thinking there is something wrong all the time.
You may have these feelings too:
- Lack of motivation and high levels of exhaustion
- Sad or low almost constantly
- Little confidence in yourself
- Irritable and tearful
- Put off seeing friends and family
- Guilt – perhaps for not loving your baby enough or not coping
- No pleasure in the things you usually enjoyed
- Self-blame for everything
If you have most of these symptoms you most likely have PND, and you need to seek treatment from your GP or Health Visitor and also speak with family and friends to help you. You are not alone and you do not have to cope with all this on your own.
Things you can do to keep Baby Blue / postnatal depression at bay.
- Have things planned for most days of the week which involves meeting friends, family and activities. This way you have a full week to look forward to and plan you days around.
- Exercise is also key to feeling good inside and looking great from the outside. The endorphins released do an amazing job of creating a natural high, combine this with fresh air you will have the best sleep ever. Exercise ideas to start; walks & brisk walks with buggy, home exercises between jobs. Or find a local exercise class suited to postnatal or even a Buggy Fitness class. Mine are run in Leicester.
- Eat healthy balanced regular meals / snacks.
- Don’t overdo it and treat yourself once a week, this doesn't have to be food either.
- Avoid stress, and take help when it is offered.
If you need more information on PND try Association for Postnatal Illness.